Whats the Buzz #15

This months fabulous writing

I don’t figging think so by Scanderella

I broke my ownn rule by reading her submission into a meme before I’d written my own. I needed something to twist figging into something sexy so I could get my mind into the right space. Knowing Ella’s ability to take something dark and turn it into a hot piece of fiction, I thought this is the place to go. In this case I was wrong. This was no fiction but her own experiences of figging. How it didn’t put me off trying it I’ll never know, maybe my own bloody mindedness kicked in! However, this piece is beyond hilarious, I was laughing so much I thought I was going to be sick. My other half was looking at me as if I’d finally lost the plot so I made him read it too. It left him holding his head in his hands uttering ‘why, why?’. Whilst I don’t like laughing at other peoples misfortune, the way she’s written it is genius!

Language Matters by Exposing 40

There is so much negativity wrapped up in the language we use as a society. It’s in small things that we don’t necessarily notice and its also in the bigger things that form our moral values. I’d like to think, for the most part, our community does what it can to challenge those views. I’m loving the fact polyamarous relationships are being discussed in the mainstream media, there are so many myths that need to be busted, so many people that jump on that band-wagon to use it as a way to cheat on their partner. Cheating is NOT ethical non-monogamy, its cheating! However, there is still a split in the community. I know a great many monogamous people feel the pressure that we *should* be poly, that its unnatural to be monogamous. Likewise monogamous people can’t understand how you can divide your time between partners withut jealousy tearing you apart.  It will be a slow process to understand each other view points without sounding judgemental, until that acceptance happens we all have to be aware of how our language has a deep impact on others lives.

Relearning how to masturbate by Eve Adler

Whilst my circimastances are very much different to Eve’s, this post resonated deeply with me. Almost two years ago now I found myself being prescribed anti-depressants, within days my orgasms completely disappeared. It was as if my clit has shrivelled up and died, I felt nothing, not even my magic wand produced anything. As someone who thrived on clitoral orgasms it felt as if a little piece of me died too. I was told to give them time, my GP didn’t understand the problem, no surprise there! I took it on myself to just stop taking them, I wouldn’t recommend that to anyone but I instantly started to feel better within myself. Now we’re almost 2 years later, my orgasms still haven’t resumed to the same level. I quite often find the pleasure builds and there is a relief of sorts but instead of there being a peak, theres nothing, just a feeling that its over. I was always an orgasm masochist, loving control and denial but now I am able to ruin my own orgasms which is just hell! Thats still most of the time but I’m far from giving up because every now and then I get the full orgasm experience and I live for those. It has been and will continue to be a long learning curve.

The family you’re given and the family you make by Kayla Lords

This is one of the most devasting blog posts I have read and in some part it is what most of us dread happening to us. Being outed and our families, colleagues, friends finding out about what we do and being judged for it. All of us do what we do for a variety of reasons and to varying degrees but none of us in this community are ashamed of what we do. Whist it hit Kayla at the wrong time, not that theres a right time, flying high after the experience of Eroticon and exhausted after the long flight home she has handled it like the star she is. Yes, she’s hurt, angry and devasted by this but she isn’t letting it stop what she is doing. This is her life and her living. She is brave and she is awesome all wrapped up and I am so proud to call her my friend!

This months gorgeous images

Twist by Focused and Filthy

I adore the simplicity of this, just a leg and foot and yet with all of those contrasts its so much more. Black, white, smooth skin, harsher material. Simply stunning.

The love boat by Marie Rebel

How is it possible to get so many things I love into one image. A gorgeous naked woman, fishnets in the form of a dress on this occasion, a boat and the ocean. How she managed to get the hot and sexy in amongst the calm and stillness is utterly brilliant!

Another day in paradise by Love Lust in London

This just calls out to my travel lust. That scenery, that sky, that blue pool, that bum! And it also makes me sad we didn’t really get a chance to catch up and talk adventures at Eroticon.

Making use of Bee’s honey by Little Switch Bitch

Now I know I maybe a little biased here but I think this is a fucking superb way of making use of honey, I’m just a little sad I wasn’t there in person to…erm…catch the drips 😉

Damsel in undress by Jenetal Torture

This is utter perfection. I think everyone now understands when life gets you down an image of an arse is always a good thing and if that isn’t enough then you just need to add dragons! And a very adorable little bearded dragon it is too