What is role play? It’s changing our behaviour to suit a different role, in other words it’s acting. It can be used in a number of different scenarios but most enable us to enhance our sex life by fulfilling fantasies that just aren’t always possible in real life. For example, seducing the sexy nurse or police officer, in real life that goes against ethics.
Then there are the historical role play scenarios, from Victorian maid to one of the more extreme varieties that involve Nazi’s. Some people enjoy playing around with a school mistress and schoolboy or whichever your specific gender combinations are. When I was first chatting to my partner on-line, he mentioned a scenario where he found me broken down at the side of the road and in exchange for him helping me I let him take advantage of me.
Personally, I really struggle with role play. I’ve stated my feelings about uniforms in the past and I certainly couldn’t find someone dressed as a Nazi a turn on. We still haven’t played out the broken down scenario because it’s just a nightmare to set up and knowing my luck someone else will arrive to ‘help’ me before my partner gets there! But the main reason is role play leaves me cold and that really boils down to one reason. I can’t act. I have no desire to act and I feel clunky and ridiculous when I try. For me that takes any of the sexiness away.
That leads me perfectly into one of my favourite rants. I am sick of people saying that D/s is just another example of role play. It isn’t! I am a submissive, that is who I am, it is not an act for me.
For some people D/s is a role play situation which is absolutely fine, exploring roles and turn ons can be great fun. Also, you can add role play into D/s scenes, think about spanking that naughty school boy/girl. D/s and role play aren’t mutually exclusive in any way.
Most of the time role play is used for sex but for a lot of people, myself very much included, D/s isn’t about sex at all. Although, once again it isn’t mutually exclusive, D/s can result in a sexual release but that needs to be negotiated with partners and certainly not an assumption.
Just don’t assume all D/s situations are role play because for the majority of people, they aren’t. Many people lead 24/7 D/s lives, nobody can keep up an act for that long.
So there you have it role play just doesn’t work for me, I’m just a submissive who gets her release from D/s and not an actress who likes to try out different roles to spice up my sex life. I much prefer just being myself.
Mrs Fever
I consider “Mistress”-ing to be role play.
Am I the dominant partner? Yes. Always.
But as such I am much more a nurturer/caregiver/leader/teacher than sadistic bitch.
So I have a role, in a power-relational way, within my relationship{s}, yes. And that’s natural, because it’s intrinsic to who I am.
But within that role, there are… I dunno, stretches(?)… I make, to play with my partners in the way{s} we like.
It’s not pretending to be another person, or character role play. But for me, Mistress is definitely a role I play.
(Not arguing your opinion, just sharing my perspective.)
Molly
I have always felt it was not for me either but it seems we are going to give the scenario I wrote about a go at some point so I guess I am going to find out either way
Mollyx
ancilla ksst
“Just don’t assume all D/s situations are role play because for the majority of people, they aren’t. Many people lead 24/7 D/s lives, nobody can keep up an act for that long.”
Truth!
Cara Thereon
I haven’t heard anyone equate D/s and role play! That’s a new one. Wow! I feel like they are definitely two different things. As someone who isn’t really much into role play, it just seems strange to lump D/s in with it. Role play is like any other sex game, used to set the mood, but not integral to the person/relationship.