Humiliation is a vast topic that means something very different to individual people. It isn’t a subject that you can pick up out of its box and use on everybody, what is deeply humiliating for one person may actually be a fetish and deeply arousing for someone else and a hard limit for another.
It is something that requires a lot of discussion between partners and it’s something that you need to tread very carefully with as it can cause harm, even unintentionally.
To break this huge topic down into easier chunks I will split it up into broad topics.
Verbal humiliation
This is fairly self explanatory. Words spoken, usually by a partner, to you.
Words are an incredibly powerful tool. They can make you feel happy, make you feel erotic shame or they could trigger a bad reaction. For example The Keeper could call me his ‘little slut’ and that would make me feel all warm, fuzzy and proud. If he calls me a ‘filthy fuck toy’ then I am going to be putty in his hands. However, if he calls me something on our banned list, then I am likely to either get tearful or go into a very dark space in my mind which will spiral and impact my mental health.
Physical humiliation
There are so many ways in which humiliation can be ‘inflicted’ upon someone, so many things that can cause humiliation. I will cover a small selection of those but this isn’t an exhaustive list!
For example, as a step on from verbal humiliation, those same words can be written on someone’s body. Seeing those labels written down can have a deeper impact.
Perhaps you could use someone’s body against them. Finding a physical attribute that causes shame, such as deriding someone for having a small penis or breasts. Then there is using a body part the bottom doesn’t really like and making them worship the tops, for example armpits or feet. Quite clearly the latter wouldn’t work for foot fetishists!
Maybe different states of dress make you feel uncomfortable. Does dressing like a slut make you squirm? Do you feel uncomfortable being naked? Can that be exaggerated by your partner being fully clothed? Add to that being made to crawl as they lead you around on a leash.
If you’re an exhibitionist you may want to explore and push those boundaries further. Would you want to be exhibited to a group of friends. Having to bend over in front of them and part your cheeks showing off your arsehole and slick cunt. Step it up by being inspected, is that cunt of yours wet enough? Your cock hard enough?
Talking of groups of people how would you like being used by them? Would you feel awkward having to serve them drinks and snacks whilst they watch a film? Would kneeling behind a glory hole turn you on or if you’ve agreed to consensual non-consent would you like to be pimped out so others use you, for a price?
Maybe being cucked by your partner is something that could work for you. Being made to watch them as they fuck someone else. Being made to kneel beside the bed, being called on to either get them ready or clean them up afterwards.
Perhaps degrading acts are more your thing. Being made to hump the corner of a coffee table, desperate to get yourself off whilst your partner watches you. The shame burning in your cheeks. Or being made to eat your dinner from a bowl on the floor, dehumanising you. Maybe being reduced to an object such as a foot stool would work for you?
Lastly, or at least the last of this small list is bodily fluids. Being made to leave your partners cum on your face may embarrass you. But what about them spitting on you? Or maybe kneeling in the shower as they piss all over you is what really gets you off?
Public Humiliation
I wasn’t going to include this but I feel it’s a subject worth highlighting. Being made to do any of these things, consensually of course, in public may increase the humiliation factor. However, that does not allow the people who witness it to give their own consent. People who do not consent to acts, should not be part of them. Obviously if it’s within the agreed limits of a group of friends who know what’s going on then go for it.
As I said at the beginning of this post, these ideas are not an exhaustive list. What is or isn’t humiliating is something very individual. Humiliation definitely isn’t for everybody and the fantasy of humiliation maybe very different to the reality.
Personally I’m pretty much up for most of the things included in this list on a fantasy level. Even the things I’ve said absolutely no way too in the past I’ve manage to twist into something very hot. But erotic humiliation isn’t something we play with so I may never get to experience the reality.
If it works for you, however, erotic humiliation can be a beautiful dance along the edge of a knife.