Humiliation is a vast topic that means something very different to individual people. It isn’t a subject that you can pick up out of its box and use on everybody, what is deeply humiliating for one person may actually be a fetish and deeply arousing for someone else and a hard limit for another.
It is something that requires a lot of discussion between partners and it’s something that you need to tread very carefully with as it can cause harm, even unintentionally.
To break this huge topic down into easier chunks I will split it up into broad topics.
Verbal humiliation
This is fairly self explanatory. Words spoken, usually by a partner, to you.
Words are an incredibly powerful tool. They can make you feel happy, make you feel erotic shame or they could trigger a bad reaction. For example The Keeper could call me his ‘little slut’ and that would make me feel all warm, fuzzy and proud. If he calls me a ‘filthy fuck toy’ then I am going to be putty in his hands. However, if he calls me something on our banned list, then I am likely to either get tearful or go into a very dark space in my mind which will spiral and impact my mental health.
Physical humiliation
There are so many ways in which humiliation can be ‘inflicted’ upon someone, so many things that can cause humiliation. I will cover a small selection of those but this isn’t an exhaustive list!
For example, as a step on from verbal humiliation, those same words can be written on someone’s body. Seeing those labels written down can have a deeper impact.
Perhaps you could use someone’s body against them. Finding a physical attribute that causes shame, such as deriding someone for having a small penis or breasts. Then there is using a body part the bottom doesn’t really like and making them worship the tops, for example armpits or feet. Quite clearly the latter wouldn’t work for foot fetishists!
Maybe different states of dress make you feel uncomfortable. Does dressing like a slut make you squirm? Do you feel uncomfortable being naked? Can that be exaggerated by your partner being fully clothed? Add to that being made to crawl as they lead you around on a leash.
If you’re an exhibitionist you may want to explore and push those boundaries further. Would you want to be exhibited to a group of friends. Having to bend over in front of them and part your cheeks showing off your arsehole and slick cunt. Step it up by being inspected, is that cunt of yours wet enough? Your cock hard enough?
Talking of groups of people how would you like being used by them? Would you feel awkward having to serve them drinks and snacks whilst they watch a film? Would kneeling behind a glory hole turn you on or if you’ve agreed to consensual non-consent would you like to be pimped out so others use you, for a price?
Maybe being cucked by your partner is something that could work for you. Being made to watch them as they fuck someone else. Being made to kneel beside the bed, being called on to either get them ready or clean them up afterwards.
Perhaps degrading acts are more your thing. Being made to hump the corner of a coffee table, desperate to get yourself off whilst your partner watches you. The shame burning in your cheeks. Or being made to eat your dinner from a bowl on the floor, dehumanising you. Maybe being reduced to an object such as a foot stool would work for you?
Lastly, or at least the last of this small list is bodily fluids. Being made to leave your partners cum on your face may embarrass you. But what about them spitting on you? Or maybe kneeling in the shower as they piss all over you is what really gets you off?
Public Humiliation
I wasn’t going to include this but I feel it’s a subject worth highlighting. Being made to do any of these things, consensually of course, in public may increase the humiliation factor. However, that does not allow the people who witness it to give their own consent. People who do not consent to acts, should not be part of them. Obviously if it’s within the agreed limits of a group of friends who know what’s going on then go for it.
As I said at the beginning of this post, these ideas are not an exhaustive list. What is or isn’t humiliating is something very individual. Humiliation definitely isn’t for everybody and the fantasy of humiliation maybe very different to the reality.
Personally I’m pretty much up for most of the things included in this list on a fantasy level. Even the things I’ve said absolutely no way too in the past I’ve manage to twist into something very hot. But erotic humiliation isn’t something we play with so I may never get to experience the reality.
If it works for you, however, erotic humiliation can be a beautiful dance along the edge of a knife.
LittleSwitchBitch
Wow, Bee!! <3 Incredible shot x
Oz
I love all the examples of humiliation you’ve come up with . Great post. Most of my clients who want humiliation are into cuckolding and forced bi. Talking about the possibility of pimping them out as you mentioned is also a very popular fantasy I’ve found. I had a guy yesterday ask my permission to wear stockings during our session. I said yes, on the condition that he wear them under his clothes on the way to my place. On the tube in rush hour. So he got a kind of public humiliation without actually exposing himself to the general public.
violet
This is such a compelling image and such a great post.
Exposing40
What a powerful photo! And I agree with Molly’s comment!
Jupiter Grant
Great post, and a fantastic image
Modesty Ablaze
Very striking photo Bee !!!
I used to be continually surprised at how many requests I receive for “humiliation” play . . . of all sorts of variations. And, I initially found this one of the most difficult of mindsets to get into in “helping my requesters” fulfill their desires.
But actually, I have more and more come to enjoy that fulfillment as I discovered just how much satisfaction those scenarios can actually bring.
We are all different . . . and that is what makes us all so interesting on so, so many levels.
Xxx – K
DeviantSuccubus
I am up to most things on your list too, although the playing with others is definitely more on the fantasy level for me. That picture is absolutely hot!
Floss
What a great post Bee and the picture is absolutely awesome! Love it! x
Victoria Blisse
Love the image, the words on skin is hot!
Sir Jaerls
Public humiliation doesn’t necessarily mean intruding on other people’s space. It’s often the idea of getting caught, not actually getting caught. Riding tied and naked in the floor of a panel van, for example where no one can in, training a sub to orgasm on command and using that when the “coast is clear.”
It’s one of my favorite kinks, as long as you’re aware of where others are, it can be very freeing.
NPE
God alive that is hot Bee! Hope you got some biological graffiti sprayed to match the words by your womanly work of art! Words are strange. So many words for penis: cock, dick, etc but the word that does it for me is the clinical one: penis. Can’t really explain why. Maybe because the slang words have alternate meanings, but penis means male sex organ and nothing else?
Molly
“Or maybe kneeling in the shower as they piss all over you is what really gets you off?”
Been a long time since I did this but reading that sentence made me twitch
Mollyx