Hand jobs are something that I’ve never really had much experience with. Yes, there’s always been the quick fumble to make sure a guy is hard enough but it’s never really been something I focused on. I mean guys would much prefer a blow job, right? They can give themselves a hand job whenever they want.
That was until I met my partner. He loves them, I’ll let him explain in his own words why.
When you say love them that’s more, I love them when someone else is doing it. When I do it myself I tend to feel like it’s a means to an end and just something to scratch that itch… probably not the right thing to say haha. When someone else does it I can just enjoy the sensations and thoughts that someone is willing to do such a, in a way, selfless thing for my pleasure, even if I know they get pleasure from it. I also enjoy the feel of a different hand, the positions it can move to that isn’t possible for me, the addition of a second hand is great too and when a warm mouth joins the party it pure bliss.
The only thing is he takes a long time to cum. Often that’s a good thing so I’m definitely not complaining but when I’m either sucking him off or giving him a hand job its not so great! Past hang ups mean he can’t relax enough to cum in my mouth so I understand that.
It does mean though that when I give him a hand job my arm tends to feel like it’s going to drop off before he cums. Quite often that means hand jobs aren’t a stand alone sex act for us but something used in combination with blow jobs etc. I know sex of any sort is about the journey and shouldn’t be goal orientated but I love seeing him cum, it turns me on so much.
Maybe I just don’t have the right technique, maybe he would prefer me to use a different stroke or pressure, I’ve watched him and he does guide me but maybe I’m just not that good at them, who knows?
I have managed to get him off a couple of times so I must be doing something right! But it does mean him cumming from a hand job alone really is just a stroke of luck.