Am I a cuddly snuggle monster?
Well yes and no. It all depends on how I’m feeling and whereabout in my cycle I am! Luckily, I have excellent partners who know me well, so will always ask if I want a cuddle or not.
I did make someone chuckle once because we were having a big heart to heart over a thing. I was snuggled up in their arms but each time they asked me a question I had to wriggle away and sit up straight because it just isn’t possible to have a deep conversation whilst curled up in a cuddle!
And sometimes it’s hard when you have a very snuggly cuddly partner when I just don’t really want to be touched. Clearly if they’re in need I’ll cuddle them closely but I have to admit there are times I want to pull away because I’m a living breathing thing and not a teddy bear. But it’s all about balance, sometimes I’ll keep holding on even though it feels too much because I know they need it, sometimes I pull away for a while and go along the little and often lines rather than one big snuggly cuddle.
But do I like cuddly sex? Again, it’s ok and I can go along with it but being used really ticks my boxes and generally that doesn’t mean cuddles.
What about after sex or a scene? It’s always good to reconnect and come down from a harsh scene with strokes and reassurance. But wrap me in a blanket and put a cup of tea in my hand is also good for me. The same with after sex, I’ll generally go straight into tidy up mode rather than cuddling.
All that makes me out to be a prickly monster and I’m not, I do love cuddles. The best time for cuddles is in the morning, lazy morning snuggling is the best. The ones where you just hug and talk nonsense about nothing in particular.
So I may not be a snuggle monster but cuddles are amazing things, preferably when clothes aren’t involved.