I have lots of very mixed feelings about lingerie. To understand what all that’s about let’s pick apart what lingerie actually is. The dictionary definition is “women’s underclothes and nightwear”. Essentially knickers, panties, bras, basques etc.
As someone who doesn’t identify as a female, straight away we have a bit of a stumbling block. I do own lingerie, I just don’t feel comfortable wearing it. I don’t like how silk and lace feels, I don’t like how small underwear feels.
I haven’t worn a bra, since the beginning of lockdown. At first it was because nobody was seeing me so what’s the point, that turned into a realisation that I felt far more comfortable free than constrained. I’ve had to change my office wardrobe since so I wear shirts that are either thick enough or pattern enough to hide any nipplage that occurs in air conditioning.
Also put me in a pair of boxers, sometimes dull and functional, sometime bright and fun, depending on my mood. But boxers make me feel like me and with feeling like me comes confidence.
There are times I have that used against me, where I’ve been dressed and feminised as a way of humiliating me. It’s definitely not something I’d want to happen all the time but on the odd occasion it is fun. On that note, I want to clarify that being female isn’t humiliating in itself, it’s more that being femme is so far out of my comfort zone that it makes me clumsy and awkward, or should I say, more than usual!
Don’t get me wrong, I love lingerie on others, I don’t have a favourite style. As with myself, I prefer people to be comfortable in what they wear. And I like to be able to get them out of it too, so if it has too many bows and I’m going to tie you in knots then maybe I’m not the best person to wear it for.
But more than anything I think a cis guy wearing lace is really fucking hot. I’m always in awe of cock owners who manage to keep their junk contained in lace because I’ve not managed to contain my packer in them!
So, for me I say knickers to wearing knickers or lingerie, give me something that’s more suited to me.