It’s Bi Visibility Day on 23rd September and each year I like to do a little something to make myself visible.
This year I thought it would be fun to have the bi flag painted on my nails. Knowing I would never be able to do something that tricky myself, I took myself off to a nail bar and had my first set of false nails.
I had no idea it would take so long…two hours people, two hours!
However, it gave me time to do nothing and just let them do their thing as I sat back and drank lots of tea whilst chatting.
The conversations I had were eye opening. I live in a sex positive bubble and forget not everyone is as open or understanding. Some of the conversations and things people said made me cringe and some things just horrified me about the lack of understanding.
The first conversation I had was about bisexuality. I spent about half an hour dispelling myths of mind changing and greediness. I think it was well received with people thinking about it rather than arguing against it.
Then the conversation moved onto polyamory. This one was tougher and received far more adversity, not against people that practice it but the feelings of jealousy it would give. I had to explain how it’s not the same as bigamy and it doesn’t always involve a triad. That whilst swinging is a form of an open relationship it’s not quite the same.
All in all it was good to have these relationships with complete strangers, to be able to open people up to new ways of thinking.
I’m quite looking forward to going back and seeing where the conversation will go next time, if I can cope with these damn nails that get in the way of everything!