I have a complex relationship with pain. I’m not a masochist so, for the most part, I don’t actually enjoy pain but I don’t think that really explains it. I fear it so instead of letting it wash over me, I clam up, clenching my teeth just to get through it.
But I’ve got ahead of myself because there are different kinds of physical pain. There is the thuddy kind from a heavy flogger, then there is the stingy kind from a thin cane or there is spikey kind.
I can bear some thuddy pain, I detest the stingy type but I can mostly enjoy the spikey kind. But that will also depend on my mind set. When I’m under a lot of stress my skin hurts me, being touched sets me on edge and that includes all those delicious spikey needles that should help reset me so I feel better. Sometimes I just can’t take any kind of physical pain.
“It is always by way of pain one arrives at pleasure.”
Marquis de Sade
As you’ve probably worked out, I don’t necessarily agree with this quote. Yes pain can be pleasurable for some but we are all different. Some of us enjoy different types and some of us don’t enjoy it at all.
But so far I’ve only talked about physical kind, there is also another kind. Emotional pain. I’m not talking about the kind of emotional hurt that causes long term damage, just like I don’t talk about physical pain that causes damage.
But the kind of emotional hurt that comes from humiliation play.
Tie me up in the corner in chastity and make me watch or just listen in as he fucks someone else. Hood me, gag me so I’m a drooling mess and tell me I’m disgusting. Talk about me as I’m bent over in front of you so you can see how wet my cunt gets at your words. Make my cheeks burn with shame.
I will never admit to being a masochist because of my fear of physical pain but twist that around to being an emotional masochist then maybe that connotation suits me far better.
Focused and Filthy
I love how our differences make us so unique, like any kind of sexual stimulus we are as varied as we are plentiful. Great image too. I don’t think I’ve used my tongue with pegs but maybe I should try it.
Missy x
HappyComeLucky
One of the best things about not having written a comment the first time I read this (or the second or third time) is that I got to keep coming back and experience the effect that your image has on me again and again.
Add onto that the fact that your words are so well expressed and have really got me thinking about humiliation and my response to it. It’s a fabulous post.
MariaSibylla
This is such a great close up photo. I love that we can see the texture on your tongue. Your post on pain is really nuanced and wonderful. I like thuddy pain the best and no emotional pain for me, I shut right down, but I love that we are all unique in what does it for us!
Molly
I think masochism is a complex subject as you have kinda of said here and has largely become associated with liking pain and that meaning physical pain but it is actually far broader than that. I like how you have divided it into 2 areas though. I think for me I like a bit of both.
Oh and I sometimes wonder about this quote and if actually de Sade is talking about the endurance of it that ultimately brings pleasure
Molly
Bibulousone
Interesting post. We are all different aren’t we!
Modesty Ablaze
Definitely different strokes for different folks … and that is what makes it so intoxicating and “enjoyable” isn’t it.
And I do love that photo … perfectly pegged and gagged !!!
Xxx – K
Victoria Blisse
Masochism is so complex and so different for every person who experiences it. It’s endlessly fascinating I find!
LittleSwitchBitch
Love the shot you have paired with the post, Bee <3 x
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