Financial domination, also known as FinDom, is a power exchange relationship where the submissive partner gives either gifts or money to the dominant partner.
Is it a kink for me? No, not at all!
It’s actually a kink that makes me uncomfortable. If it’s your thing, great, go for it. Whilst all power exchange relationships have the potential for abuse, I feel that when money or gifts come into it, it’s even more of a risk. And potentially more so with the cost of living crisis. Those paying money have less to spend and those receiving it feel the loss even more.
Would I hand over my wages to a partner for them to control. Oh hell no! My money is my money to spend. We pay an equal amount into a joint account each month and all the bills, food, household costs and mortgage get taken from that account rather than attempting to split the bills evenly out of individual accounts. But that’s as close to giving away my wages as it comes.
I will happily buy my friends and partners gifts when I see something they’ll like. If I were crafty and creative I’d make individual gifts but I’m not and most toddlers could make something better than I can! Besides, I’d rather give any ‘extra’ money to a charity close to my heart.
I don’t want to yuck someone’s yum in any way but I am very wary of how easily power exchanges can slide into abuse. I am nobody’s paypig and likewise, I would be incredibly uncomfortable asking people for gifts myself. If people chose to do so, then that’s lovely but I could never ask for anything. I’m even rubbish at putting together a Christmas present list and I don’t have any wish lists.
So no, playing with financial domination and money is not for me.
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