Consequences

All actions have consequences don’t they. Hopefully those are mostly good but occasionally they are bad.

I don’t like punishments at all. I am a fully functioning adult and I do not like being treated as a child. Punishments make me feel angry and I don’t like being made to feel angry or infantilised.

I am a big fan of rules, I need constraints and parameters to function within. I also love working through my tasks, I feel an enormous sense of achievement when I tick tasks off my list or work towards a goal.

However, sometimes life gets in the way or genuine mistakes are made and tasks or rules are out to one side. Should those things receive negative consequences or punishments? In my opinion, absolutely not.

That said, if the action was a conscious and wilful act, then there should be consequences to those actions. And those consequences should fit the ‘crime’.

If I’ve been forgetful, for no good reason, then something more gentle as a reminder not to forget again. If I’ve been wilfully defiant then the consequences should be more severe.

I am not talking about a punishment beating, beatings should always be consensual. And, for me, I struggle with pain. I want to be able to grow into pain and if it’s forced upon me, then I’m just going to retreat away from it and therefore that growth has been put into reverse. Instead, I could be made to feel uncomfortable, I could have something like a task taken away so I feel a little lost temporarily.

Kink, again for me, is about personal growth as much as it’s about fun. Yes I was all the giggles but I want to become a stronger, more rounded person. So I firmly believe my actions should have consequences. Hopefully good ones but occasionally I accept they may not be so good but you can keep your punishments away from me because they don’t encourage that growth.