Before I start I just want to make it clear that when I’m discussing clothed top, naked bottom I’m not actually talking about forgetting to take half of my cloathes off! It is of course a dominant partner, or top, remaining clothed whilst the submissive partners or bottom, being naked.
It is a kink that definitely works for me, I love the feeling of power over me. Whilst I love being naked, it gives that nakedness an additional level of humiliation.
Clothes really do mean power. Think of work attire, someone in a suit and tie oozes power, not always the right kind unfortunately. Same with wearing your favourite pair of underwear, lingerie or stockings beneath them to give you the confidence for an important presentation.
I was fortunate that before covid I had an CMnf event I could attend. I started out really enjoying them, although that first time I was so nervous. I would be going with friends and that meant my friends would see me naked for the first time in the flesh, yes they’d seen photos of me but I didn’t have to look them in the eye!
Sadly, it came to a point where I didn’t look forward to them as much as I initially did. They became social events which meant they lost that sexy, humiliating edge. But more than that, they were very strictly gendered events, with the tops being male and bottoms being female. As I was questioning my gender that made me feel like I didn’t belong so I was actually quite relieved the events stopped and I no longer needed to attend. Just to be clear, I loved seeing my friends but we could socialise outside that setting.
I haven’t actually played with this kink properly since I attended the events, yes there was an element of that at our wedding breakfast but not in the strictest of senses. Maybe it’s because we haven’t been able to play in group settings. However, I think there definitely needs to be more clothed top and naked bottoms in my future!