Well if you are, then please carry out those threats!
Obviously, when we talk about threats, we’re talking the fun sexy ones. Not the ones that are going to cause genuine physical or mental harm.
For me, threats fall into two distinct categories. Firstly, the threats that you tell me in our private messages to each other, or the ones you growl at me in the build up to an encounter we’re going to have.
The ones where you tell me that “you’ll be sorry you ever did that” or that “you’ll pay for that later”. Maybe you’ll tell me exactly how I’m going to pay for it in explicit detail so my cunt aches in anticipation for the rest of the time I’m waiting.
Those are the things I really want and if you threaten them, then please carry out those threats. There is nothing worse than all that anticipation and build up and then…nothing. The pain I feel when nothing happens, or maybe you just fuck me in a vanilla kind of way but the threats you make just vanish. If you make me a promise then I need that to be fulfilled, so I can be fulfilled.
Then there are the other kind of threats, the ones mid scene where you get me to a point I will accept anything. When you growl things into my ear that I wouldn’t actually do, without explicit consent. The type that take my submission to the next level.
Like when you have me on my hands and knees when I’m hooded and gagged, you’re beating me and I’m totally in my subby zone. Then you tell me there is nothing stopping you pushing your cock through my gag and pissing in my mouth. Deep down I know it’s not possible, I know you wouldn’t actually do it but fuuuuuuck, I want you too so much. Right there, in that moment, I am at my most submissive. It both scares me and completes me all at once.
I know if that kind of threat actually gets carried out, without explicit consent, then all trust is lost.
I know this sounds quite contradictory. If you threaten me then carry it out but also don’t carry out some threats. It is a complex and nuanced subject and not all threats are equal. That’s why I would only want the second kind of threat to come from someone who knows me well, someone who I trust. After all threats really can be lots of fun.