When you’re feeling blue

by sub-Bee

Sinful Sunday

There’s only one thing to do when I’m feeling blue that’s guaranteed to put a smile back on my face. A huge, wonderful, mind-blowing orgasm!

Sadly that’s something that has been a bit of a struggle recently, things are improving but not as quickly as I’d like. One of my nicknames is Little Miss Impatient and I have to admit I just want to be me again. When I don’t reach that much needed orgasm it only makes me feel worse again.

Even worse is partnered orgasms are almost non-existent right now. I need to make it clear that it’s nothing to do with my partner, he’s been a wonderful support and understands how this is effecting me. I need to take my time and learn to explore myself and find out what works for me again before I can show him what I need. But in the meanwhile it just makes feel guilty that I don’t work as I should.

So right now I’m doing exactly that, trying everything possible to find out what works for me. Historically I’ve never used toys because they’ve not done anything for me, fingers have always got the job done far better and quicker but now I’m revising that and seeing if toys can help.

I picked up this absolute beauty, made by Ceramic Pleasures, at Eroticon earlier this year. I had no intention at the time of using it, I just thought it was art that needed to be on display somewhere.

Whilst I still don’t find dildos work for me, they can be another tool I can use along the way. Now if I’m feeling blue, I can reach for my not-so-little blue beauty to help raise a smile.

Written by sub-Bee

Kinky submissive who loves to share her naughty side here at atosubbee.com

You can also find me here: @sub_bee

23 thoughts on “When you’re feeling blue”

  1. Exposing40 says:

    My ceramic pleasures dildo is blue too! Hope exploring their art continued to help you… xx

  2. mariasibylla says:

    Oh this is a wonderful photo! I thought “I wonder if she got that at Eroticon from Ceramic Pleasures?” as soon as I saw it.

  3. Nero says:

    A great photo and thanks for the accompanying text too. So often we only hear sex bloggers talking about all the mind blowing orgasms they have, and we forget about the real world stuff. This gives me a new insight on what I perceive as my wife’s loss of libido.

  4. Jaime says:

    Very nice pic!

    And best wishes for a return to form!

    Though nothing wrong with the form of those thighs!

    Lovely shot.

  5. Monika says:

    I can fully empathise with your words. I felt the same after having my kids. I’m sorry for the way you’re feeling now but while you’ve decided to experiment it might be a great journey to the new you. I love this image, it’s a great shot. I wish you a lot of orgasmic moments.

  6. Indigo Byrd says:

    Thanks for sharing!
    Somehow you photograph captures something of what you are experiencing
    My orgasms are proving to be hard work at the moment too so I can relate… Hope it picks up soon. Sometimes my “Midnight at the Oasis” turns into 1.00, 2.00 or even 3.00 o’clock before I get bored, devastatingly tired or “yay!” get a result.
    Love the dildo, glad to see I’m not the only one who collects for aesthetics not just function.

  7. Molly says:

    Ohh I got a blue one at Eroticon too but mine is all smooth and I very nearly used it for this prompt. I am really glad I went for the glass now I see yours.

    As for the orgasms, I am sorry that is still being difficult for you and I hope you are back to your old self soon

    Mollyx

  8. Cammies on the Floor says:

    I first saw this on twitter and the color blue caught my attention, but to know what the toy is and to see you begin to use it, made me want to view it again and again

  9. LittleSwitchBitch says:

    Ooh I love that colour <3

    Hope you learn to find something that works for you again x

  10. Tabitha says:

    Hey sweet Bee,
    This is a gorgeous photo. Ceramic Pleasures is such a lovely company.
    Sorry you’re feeling a bit remote from your orgasms but I have to agree with the other comments, time, self compassion and to repeat Eye, seeing it as a journey to, not a journey back to…
    I certainly have these times.
    Keep exploring 😍😍😍
    Lots of love x x

  11. Aurora Glory says:

    I can see why you couldn’t resist picking that up at Eroticon! Their dildos really are works of art. I hope you are able to get past this difficulty somehow. I can only imagine the frustration you are going through.
    Aurora x

  12. Elliott Henry says:

    Toys will never replace fingers and hands, but they do enhance. Orgasms can be elusive, but it’s always fun trying.

  13. Modesty Ablaze says:

    Well . . . you’ve displayed it perfectly here!
    I bought one . . . a blue one too . . . at Eroticon as well.
    And actually, though I do find trying different toys fun . . . and intriguing, and interesting . . . I always approach them from the point of view of being an accessory. One has to be in the mood, and sometimes “life” gets in the way doesn’t it?
    And life goes in cycles . . . so . . . !!!

  14. Jo says:

    Give yourself time (and compassion) and take your exploration little by little to seek pleasure instead of orgasm – you’re putting a lot of pressure on yourself! You’re working *exactly* as you should – we all change and you are where you are right now… that will change, too. The dildo is a really beautiful work of art, and the composition of the photo is gorgeous. xx

  15. Marie Rebelle says:

    That dildo has a stunning color, and helps to make this an extra sexy image 🙂

    Rebel xox

  16. Malflic says:

    Such a great colored toy. Good luck on your exploration and hope you find what your looking for.

  17. Victoria Blisse says:

    *hugs* Best of luck on your journey. A beautiful photo and I love the Ceramic dildoes, they’re so pretty!

  18. eye says:

    We often forget that we are changing, growing creatures and that includes our responses to stimuli too. Perhaps not thinking if this as a journey back to something but more as a continuing journey through life might help take the pressure off you a little?
    I hope you continue to find ways of giving yourself pleasure both alone and partnered.

  19. Cousin Pons says:

    Beautifully written sub-Bee. I haven’t had sex for a long long time but I can remember the stress caused when I couldn’t reach an orgasm. Your dildo is indeed a work of art. I hope it helps you. Your photo, by the way, is so uninhibited and just looks so wonderfully natural.

  20. HappyComeLucky says:

    That is a very pretty dildo. It looks as though you’re having fun while you explore new ways.

  21. KP says:

    That is indeed a beautiful piece of art, and I love this shot. Hope things are getting better, even if it’s not at the pace you’d like.

  22. May More says:

    Yeah I have seen those dildos online, they are really eye catching and your blue one is no different,

  23. Simina says:

    I didn’t even know ceramic dildos were a thing. Cool.

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